Some of us make them ferociously every year with intent to abide by them over the course of the year. But as we know, usually from personal experience, that the path of intent does not always go smoothly or contain much in the way of longevity. Life gets in the way. Our lifestyles, work, family, time, etc etc. As we get lost in the haze of time, that year end is upon us and we then frantically try to find new ones for the following year convinced again that we will succeed this time.
So how do we manage to get these resolutions to last longer than a goldfish won at a fair?
1. Be passionate about your goal. If you dont believe it or really want it then say bye bye now and save yourself the mental anguish.
2. Dont leave it till the stroke of 12 on New Years eve whilst inebriated and the mental capacity of the above Goldfish to suddenly decide such an important Goal to achieve. Think about it a month or so in advance. Let the idea float around and take root, be sure and honest with it. WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT TO ACHIEVE?
3. Dont make more than 1 or 2. Make it achievable and realistic, much easier when it's attainable. If there is fear or other things to get over first ie. parachute jump if you're terrified of heights...then yeah...thats a lot more difficult than simple procrastination and disorganisation. I am not saying it can't happen but lets start off with something with less chance of being discarded around the same time as the poor Goldfish!
4. Share your goal. If you keep it to yourself like a member of the illuminati ( Secret society) then only you know about it. Ask others to encourage you and check in with how you are getting on.Don't be frightened to ask for assistance, you might have similar goals to others. keep each other motivated and encouraged.
5. Break it down into smaller steps or subgoals.Each one measurable. This will allow you to feel a sense of achievement as you progress.
6. Check in regularly with your goal. If anything needs adapting to help you stay on track this will help you keep the focus and remind you of your intent.
7. Reward yourself as you reach a sub goal. Obviously i don't mean cake binge if your aim is to lose weight! Something that will keep you motivated in regards to your particular goal. If its the weight example, then perhaps something to wear, a makeover , whatever works. As long as it does not conflict with what you are aiming for. Its about keeping that motivation going throughout the term of your goal.
8. Last but not least.Be kind to yourself, don't take the odd revert to previous behaviours or actions to mean failure. We are creatures of habit and occasionally we dip into old ways. Don't get discouraged, remind yourself of your goal, your reasons and achievement towards it.You cant unknow what you know..each step like time moves forwards and is not one you can take back. Keep going!